Friday, September 11th, 2015 :: 5:59 PM
"The greatest thing about having a child is putting yourself second in your own life. It's a massive gift to be able to say that you're not the most important person to yourself."
"Why is that a good thing?"
"Because that's always gonna let you down, you know what I mean? The idea that 'I've gotta get me right, I've gotta get what I want'; that's never gonna quite work, you know? Life just isn't that satisfying. But if you can be useful to somebody else, that you can actually accomplish. You can go, 'I did a pretty damn good job today as a dad. Pretty good, best as I could'; that's worth so much more. (>>)
Sunday, April 5th, 2015 :: 9:03 PM
"A healthy person coupled with an unhealthy person will still result in an unhealthy relationship." (>>)
Sunday, January 4th, 2015 :: 1:41 PM
"Folks come to Progressive Christianity so they can question and wrestle in a safe place, which means that honest dialogue, even disagreement, is welcomed. Current culture however, has a toxic level of policing the progressive borders– and this is completely losing me." (>>)
Tuesday, April 29th, 2014 :: 5:07 AM
"Maturing is realizing how many things don't require your comment." (>>)
Thursday, October 13th, 2011 :: 2:30 PM
"I'll admit that I find plenty to wince at when I'm at Westlake, but show me another large, vibrant movement without these problems and embarrassments that addresses social and economic inequity and the erosion of our democracy, and I'll be the first to sign up, but until then, the Occupations will have to suffice." (>>)
Sunday, August 28th, 2011 :: 9:37 PM
"I’d rather be connected than perfect." (>>)
Tuesday, May 24th, 2011 :: 9:13 PM
"We had to learn ourselves and, furthermore, we had to teach the despairing men, that it did not really matter what we expected from life, but rather what life expected from us. We needed to stop asking about the meaning of life, and instead think of ourselves as those who were being questioned by life — daily and hourly. Our answer must exist, not in talk and meditation, but in right action and right conduct. Life ultimately means taking the responsibility to find the right answers to its problems and to fulfill the tasks which it constantly sets before each individual." (>>)
Sunday, April 3rd, 2011 :: 9:49 AM
"When it comes to manly characters in literature, my thoughts always return to one man: Atticus Finch." (>>)
Friday, October 29th, 2010 :: 5:02 PM
"…it's not that I WANT Shitloads of Money, it's that I am strangely afraid and hostile about the people who HAVE Shitloads of Money, because I assume that they are like the adolescents of my college experience, who were, in a word, assholes…" (>>)
Thursday, April 22nd, 2010 :: 1:29 PM
"Whenever my husband and I have a fight, I just moon him and he starts giggling and then the fight is over. I don't know if this would work for every couple, though." (>>)
Thursday, April 1st, 2010 :: 2:25 PM
"In my own life, this comes in moments when I find myself angry or selfish and I simply say to myself 'Hey, youâ€™re doing that thing where you get jealous.' In other times, I will feel like people donâ€™t like me, I wonâ€™t want to go to a party or something and Iâ€™ll say to myself 'Hey, youâ€™re doing that thing where you identify as a marginalized person because it makes you feel special.' " (>>)
Monday, June 22nd, 2009 :: 11:15 AM
Lost Cause Radio – Episode 1
Friday, February 22nd, 2008 :: 4:09 PM
"Everybody wants to say they looove them some Jebus, but they're sooooo mad at the Church for not being eschatologically perfect in the middle of history, which excuses them from actually practicing the Christian religion and living in community." (>>)
Wednesday, December 19th, 2007 :: 3:23 PM
"Itâ€™s about a kid who learns to not be ashamed of whom he is. In the beginning, he is ashamed of his faith. He feels that faith is socially and intellectually inferior so he wrestles with loving his community while still not wanting to be a part. When he goes off to Reed, he finds escape from that, but through a relationship with Penny, has to confront the reality that faith is larger and more encompassing than he had judged. And he has to face the fact that he is a poser and is as judgmental as those he would consider to be his enemies." (>>)
Thursday, June 7th, 2007 :: 9:39 AM
"Not learning those lessons may be attributable to some ADD, mule-headed stubbornness or simply feeling a lot of self-pity so I didnâ€™t want to take responsibility for anything. Acting as if there were no lessons to be learned was always a convenient way to act as if everything happening today was my wifeâ€™s fault, when in fact I was responsible for knowing where we were on the map, what was happening and how I should act/react.
"This time around I wanted things to be different. I was praying that God would show me and teach me how to deal with what we were facing, and what I needed to be and do for our marriage to heal and grow.
"And so the idea came.
"Write a book about my wife. A book about my wife and what I have learned about her and us, about being a good husband, and about what will make our marriage better.
"So far, there are an even 50 lessons. Some short, some detailed. There will be a lot more. They cover things Iâ€™ve known for 29 years and things I learned yesterday. There are lessons from books and truths God showed me in the aftermath of some gruesome messes. There are reminders of what it means to be kind, of how long my wife can stand to hear my voice without a break, of what I know will assure her that I love her and warnings of things to never bring up. There is an inventory of some of my fears that have shaped too many interactions. There are reassurances of things I know are true no matter what happens. There is a prayer for humility and unconditional love. There are reminders of what I know about my wifeâ€™s family and what she learned about marriage there. There are reminders of what I never learned about marriage in my home. There are reminders of what works and what never has worked. There are list of what annoys and what hurts and what angers. There are lists of what I should never mention and what I should say several times a day. There are small suggestions and principles so vital the whole marriage depends on them." (>>)
Monday, September 18th, 2006 :: 8:45 AM
"And come on, weâ€™re big boys and girls now. We can make friends with whom we want, read whatever we like, and have our pick of spiritual directors. Weâ€™ve got a great big church and two thousand years of Christian history at our disposal, both the good and the evil. Letâ€™s leave off our complaining that nobody dropped 'a good way of being Christian' in our laps and rather do the hard work of discovering it ourselves. Take some responsibility." (>>)
Saturday, September 2nd, 2006 :: 9:21 PM
"The man who thinks he knows something does not yet know as he ought to know. But the man who loves God is known by God." (>>)
Wednesday, August 9th, 2006 :: 1:14 PM
"Others relish the battlefield; Graham now prizes peace. He is a man of unwavering faith who refuses to be judgmental; a steady social conservative in private who actually does hate the sin but loves the sinner; a resolute Christian who declines to render absolute verdicts about who will get into heaven and who will not; a man concerned about traditional morality–he is still slightly embarrassed that he kissed 'two or three girls' before he kissed his wife–who will not be dragged into what he calls the 'hot-button issues' of the hour. Graham's tranquil voice, though growing fainter, has rarely been more relevant." (>>)
Friday, August 26th, 2005 :: 9:33 AM
"It's so much easier to be snide than vulnerable." (>>)